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Every Tuesday Morning at 8am on the Morning Wake-Up, Clint asks your hard questions about relationships, sex, marriage to the Love Doctor Ian Grant from fatherswhodarewin.com  

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Question 1

Hey Doc,

I've been unfaithful to my wife for three years sadly. I have turned my life around and recently given my heart to the Lord. I was wondering what advice you could give me to help my wife understand I am a changed man of God?

Question 2

Hi,

I’ve temporarily moved in with a married couple who I’m close friends with. I’ve noticed there isn’t a lot of communication between them at all. He plays X-box till dinner, then washes up and goes back to his X-box until they go off to bed every night. She watches TV or does her own thing and they both seem to be happy doing it. I wonder whether I should say anything because their lifestyle can’t be healthy or if they don’t mind just let them be!?

Question 3

Hey Love Doc,

My wife isn’t interested in any sort of bedroom activity, regardless of the different ways I approach it, or the things I do to help around the house, she doesn’t have the drive or romantic desires that we both struggled to supress when dating. I’m sick of the numerous excuses and have gotten to the point where I’m fed up with trying. We discussed the issue, I vented my frustration and she said she doesn’t know why she feels like she does, I feel we’re at a dead end…

Question 1

Hey Doc,

I have recently downloaded the app called Tinder. Basically how it works is you upload a few pictures of yourself to your profile. You then look at other peoples profiles and can rate them 'hot or not' if you both rate each other hot then you can start messaging, and eventually meet up. I have had about 5 matches so far, there was one weirdo who I stopped messaging but the others seem like nice guys. I'm particularly keen to meet up with one of them. My friends have been quite negative towards it and think it's weird. But you can find people in all sorts of random places, so why not Tinder? What do you think?

Question 2

Hello Love Doctor!

I just got this new job and I absolutely love it - pretty much my dream job. But my boss has been flirting with me this past week. I haven't been leading him on at all but I haven't really shut him down either. It is a bit weird though and I’d rather he kept his flirty comments to himself. I'm just worried that if I mention something it could ruin the best job ever, it could mean that I have to go back to square one and start again, I have worked so hard to get where I am today. What should I do?

Question 3

Hey Love Doc,

How do you know when you are ready to have sex (I am expecting the answer to be wait till you're married), but why is this an important thing to do? We are told from a very young age to wait till marriage but not many people know why we do it?

Question 1

Hi Love Doc,

I have been struggling for a long time with what I have learned to be a fetish. I know that many if not most of us have them, and yet I have never heard anyone in any church context talk about them. What I am not so sure about is whether this is something which I should be trying to suppress completely, or is this a part of my make up, and something which there is a place for in the context of marriage? Should I be looking for a partner who shares the same fetish as I do?

Question 2

Hi love Doc I'm getting married in a couple of months to the most wonderful woman, I'm absolutely crazy about her and I'm really excited for the wedding but there is one issue. I'm physically attracted to her sister, nothing has happened and definitely won't happen but, is this something that will go away or do I need to address this?

Question 3

My husband has terrible dress sense, except the thing is he is really into fashion, and well.. He thinks he is fashionable. We went to NZ fashion week and he was adamant to wear this stupid peacock hat he found at some market (everyone thought it was weird) I feel embarrassed to go out in public with him sometimes. How much say to I get when it comes to how he dresses himself? Do I just need to get over it?

Question 1

I‘m organising the stag do for my best friend, I'm a Christian, he's not and his one request is to have strippers. I'm not sure what to do, I don't feel comfortable with it!

Question 2

I’m in love with my best friend; I have been since i met her 3 years ago. I'm not sure how she feels about me.. I don't think she feels the same.. do you think I should continue to keep my feelings to myself, or tell her how I feel? I wouldn't know where to start!

Question 3

My boyfriend has told me he's previously struggled with a porn addiction, I know he still struggles with it from time to time, which hurts quite a lot but I have to forgive him. I feel like forgiving him isn't enough though, what is something tangible I can do to help him through this, so that it doesn't affect our relationship negatively any longer.

Question 1

Hey Love Doc, This girl and I have been friends for a long time, there is definitely an attraction between us. But we seem to have really bad timing.. when I'm dating someone, she's single and vice versa. Right now she is in a relationship. I really want to give us a go. If it's meant to be do you think it will just happen? Or do I need to actively pursue her even though she’s currently dating someone else?

Question 2

Hi Ian, I'm 'seeing' this guy.. We’ve kissed and pretty much act like we go out-but it's not 'official'.I would consider myself 'unavailable' but i don't know if he feels the same way. I don't want to come across as being needy so I've just left it, but I think we need to talk about it, what do I say to him?

Question 3

Hey Doc, I have a mate who's recently become a christian, and he has just started coming to church with me. All the single girls have been all over him like a rash week after week! He is now feeling awkward about coming to church because of it, which has resulted in him being hesitant to come back. Do I need to have a chat with the girls, what can I do to help?

Question 1

Hey love doc. My friend and i are both into the same dude. he has shown an interest in both of us, and if i got the chance i know i would jump for it. Do you think we both need to drop it for our friendships sake? or what if he is the person I'm supposed to marry! help!

Question 2

Hey Love Doc, I need some help. Im 23, female and beginning my first serious relationship. I was sexually abused when I was younger and because of this I am very uninterested/afraid of/disturbed by physical intimacy. My boyfriend knows my story and is very understanding and wonderful, we love each other and connect intimately on other levels. But I am afraid that this won’t change and will eventually lead to problems if we get engaged or married. What do I do?

Question 3

Hey Ian. Good to have you back, love your advice each week, has really made me think over the last 6 months or so. My question is about ‘donut’ relationships, ones that go round and round. I have gone out with and broken up with this same girl about 4 times for various reasons, nothing scandalous. How many times is too many before you know it ain’t gonna work out. Cause we have both been growing and changing alot in the past few years and maybe this time we are ready? Or do you think Im just telling myself that and should just cut myself loose?

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