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Question 1

Hello Ian.

I feel like I don't have a proper relationship with God because I don't understand the magnitude of what I have been forgiven of and the sacrifice Jesus made for me. The knowledge is all in my head but it doesn't sink into my heart. I feel arrogant because I don't get what a big deal it is.

Question 2

Hey Ian.

Is it weird that I don’t ‘miss’ my partner? I have been overseas for work for the last 3 months, totally isolated except for the team I was with. I’m back now but when I was gone I realised that I didn’t ‘miss’ my partner. Not one bit. Our relationship is great, and I have no other reason to think we might not be perfect for each other. But it has got me thinking, if I didn’t miss her, do I really love her? Or maybe I’m just over thinking things. Do many people feel this way?

Question 3

Hey Doc,

I was wondering if it is wrong to wear make-up? Some of the girls from my church wear no make-up and there has never been an issue. Recently though I have been feeling like there is some pressure on me to stop wearing it. The girls all talk about how empowering it is etc and they seem to talk about it while I am around. It makes me feel uncomfortable, and a little awkward. I like wearing make-up, it makes me feel pretty! Is that a bad thing?

Question 1

Hey Love Doc,

I have just moved into a new flat, I have a great faith in Jesus but none of my new flatmates do, which is totally fine. My question is, should I hang around them when they are doing things I don’t agree with? I am never tempted to join them but is it ok to be with my friends when they are drinking heavily etc. Should I be leaving the room or whatever to ‘make a stand’ and ‘show what I believe in’ or should I just stay in that environment with them and show them another way of living? Some of my church friends have said I shouldn’t associate with people like that, but that’s what Jesus did right? Or am I missing something?

Question 2

Hi Doc.

My Mum was a hoarder. She kept literally everything that came into contact with her. It was very hard growing up with that in the house. Mum however has passed since then. The problem now, is that I have moved into a house with my sister. She always goes on about how crazy and weird mum was and how she wants to be different for her kids. However, I think my sister is turning into a hoarder too. At first I thought it was just a "messy room" type thing, but now it's started to come into the office, dining room, kitchen and even the hallway. I know that I should talk to her about it, but I also know that becoming like our Mum is her biggest fear. How do I talk to her about this? And is hoarding a problem that needs professional help?

Question 3

Hey Ian,

How quickly can you ask someone out on a date?  I’ve met this girl and she’s a Christian too, I really like her but am not sure if she’s just being friendly or whether she is interested in me. Is it a bad move to ask her out when we hardly know each other? She is a total catch so if I wait around too long someone else might swoop in, and I don’t wanna miss out!

Question 1

Hi Doc,

I have been married for 2 years. Just before we got married, my wife (fiance at the time) got diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome. At first it was fine, she would just sleep a lot, the odd time we would have to cancel plans to go out etc. Recently however, the illness has worsened and she can’t work and finds it exhausting to see people or even worse go out somewhere. I know it’s not her fault but I’m finding it really hard to deal with this, I can’t tell her how I feel because I don’t want her to feel she is responsible. Sadly I don’t know whether I am ‘man enough’ to deal with this. I need some advice or encouragement or something cause I am struggling here.

Question 2

Hey Love Doc,

I recently moved into a youth hostel to be closer to uni. Unfortunatley my boyfriend still lives in our hometown, 45 minutes drive away. We are working really hard to see each other as much as as possible, but it's really hard. I don't know if we should be spending time alone together in my apartment, but I don’t have a car. I have been bussing to his house as much as possible, but he likes to come over and cook me meals and things. We love each other, but we want to do things right. Love Doc, How do we do it?

Question 3

Love Doc,

How do I confront someone about a fake pregnancy? I know someone who says she is pregnant, but a number of things are just not lining up…. She is taking a lot of time off work because of ‘morning sickness’ and I have seen her using her pregnancy in other manipulative ways to get what she wants out of people. She has been caught out lying before about some pretty serious things. I can’t say how, but I am fairly certain she is making this up. I know that obviously time will tell but I think if she is faking this, it needs to stop. Who should I talk to about this and is there any way to bring this up with her??? Hard I know…..

Question 1

I recently made friends with a guy at my former hostel whom I thought could do with a friend. I invited him to church one Sunday and we had lunch after. But things started to get out of control as he would text me every day to see what I am up to and it appeared he was keeping tabs on me because on weekends that I am away, I'd get a message asking where I am and when will I be back. I had to tell him to stop sending those messages, it's getting kind of creepy. We have since moved out of the hostel to different flats and I am hoping that would be the end of our friendship but the texts are still coming. I have been ignoring the last few messages but I feel God wants me to end it in a diplomatic way. The truth is I am very uncomfortable around him and would be glad for the friendship to die down.

Please help. I don't want to run him down in the course of ending the friendship. Yet it's a very unsustainable friendship. ​

Question 2

Hey Doc,

I have been together with this girl for a long time and everything was perfect and we got along really REALLY well. She is the nicest girl I have ever met but she then suddenly just stopped talking to me and won't tell me why. I have no idea what I said or did that she didn't like. It has gone on for a while and I was wondering how I can get her to tell me what is wrong and to try and mend the relationship. Thanks

Question 3

Hey Love Doc,

I need some SPACE. My husband always wants to be around me, like when watching TV or reading a book he will ALWAYS sit right next to me, If I go outside to do some gardening etc, he will also just 'hang around' outside, it's nice most of the time but sometimes I just feel like he follows me around like a puppy. I need to be independant from him sometimes and I think it would be healthy for him too. Why do you think he does this and how do I approach it without hurting him?

Question 1

What are 3 questions you should ask yourself when your relationship starts getting serious and you’re wondering if they could be the one!?

Question 2

Hey Doc,

It’s wedding season and I’ve got my stag party coming up. I look at it as my last ‘hurrah’ before tying the knot but understand there are boundaries for everything. What’s the general rule in these situations? How far is too far?

Question 3

Hey Doc,

I have been dating a girl for a while now and am in love with her... but I don’t trust her, if that’s possible. How do I work on building trust or know when it’s time to just give up?

Question 1

Hey,

My daughter’s boyfriend asked for my blessing at the family dinner table in front of everyone over the weekend – problem is they’ve only been dating 4 weeks and this exchange was the first time I’ve even met the young man. How do I help my daughter make the right decision, when this all seems to be moving much too fast for my liking?

Question 2

Hey Doc,

My boyfriend just got my name tattooed on him, and I’m not sure how I feel about it. He’s offended because he said he was ‘publicly declaring his love for me’ and instead of excitement my first reaction was shock. It’s caused a bit of an issue and we haven’t spoken in a few days. What would you suggest going forward?

Question 3

My wife and I have been living in the UK for the past few months. I’ve secured a job and am loving the travel lifestyle that we have both been dreaming about and looking forward to for so long. Problem is my wife is extremely homesick and wants to pack it in and head home. It’s a very emotional time because I very much want to stick out our 2 year plan whereas she wants out now. What do we do?  

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