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Question 1

What are 3 questions you should ask yourself when your relationship starts getting serious and you’re wondering if they could be the one!?

Question 2

Hey Doc,

It’s wedding season and I’ve got my stag party coming up. I look at it as my last ‘hurrah’ before tying the knot but understand there are boundaries for everything. What’s the general rule in these situations? How far is too far?

Question 3

Hey Doc,

I have been dating a girl for a while now and am in love with her... but I don’t trust her, if that’s possible. How do I work on building trust or know when it’s time to just give up?

Question 1

Hey,

My daughter’s boyfriend asked for my blessing at the family dinner table in front of everyone over the weekend – problem is they’ve only been dating 4 weeks and this exchange was the first time I’ve even met the young man. How do I help my daughter make the right decision, when this all seems to be moving much too fast for my liking?

Question 2

Hey Doc,

My boyfriend just got my name tattooed on him, and I’m not sure how I feel about it. He’s offended because he said he was ‘publicly declaring his love for me’ and instead of excitement my first reaction was shock. It’s caused a bit of an issue and we haven’t spoken in a few days. What would you suggest going forward?

Question 3

My wife and I have been living in the UK for the past few months. I’ve secured a job and am loving the travel lifestyle that we have both been dreaming about and looking forward to for so long. Problem is my wife is extremely homesick and wants to pack it in and head home. It’s a very emotional time because I very much want to stick out our 2 year plan whereas she wants out now. What do we do?  

Question 1

Hi love doc!

My sister is 17 and goes to church/youth group, but is not strictly 'Christian', and has had her first boyfriend, whom is not a Christian. She said to me once ages ago that she would not go 'all the way', but recently she and the guy were caught alone in her bedroom and he had only his pants left on. My mum and I are both concerned about my sister and are worried that she is being lead astray. I don't think it's bad that she's in a relationship, but I would like some advice on how I can encourage her to make the right choices, even when her friends may be in immoral relationships.

Question 2

Hey doc,

I have recently discovered one of my parents has a genetic degenerative disease and there is a 50% chance that I have the disease too. I have recently started seeing a guy, and he knows about this, but I feel like it wouldn't be fair on him to start a relationship with me with the high chance that I end up completely losing my physical and mental abilities within the next 10-20 years. There is a test that can be done to see if I have the disease but at the moment I am too scared to take the test as it would take all hope away if I do have it. I've said that if I have the disease I want to remain single but now there is this guy on the scene and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?

Question 3

Hi Love Doc,

SO, when I was younger, I was sexually abused. I don't really remember it, and I am happy not to. I feel that because of this it has effected how I act towards relationships. Since becoming a Christian in 2007, I haven't had a Girlfriend - but not through lack of trying. In the past I’ve never really had heaps of guy mates but I have had heaps of girl mates, and I believe that that could be from what happened to me. Now every Girl that I’ve liked only ever sees me as a friend, I fear that with what happened I might only ever be putting out a ‘Friends only’ ‘vibe’. How do I heal from that which I don't remember? Am I meant to remember? Will remembering help me or break me?

Question 1

Hey Love Doc,

Every time I want to chat with my girlfriend about something I think we need to improve on she takes offence and assumes I'm being confrontational. It then escalates it into a fight. How do I get her see communicating in a relationship is healthy?

Question 2

Hi Doc,

How much influence do I have over the guys my wife is or isn't friends with, without being possessive?

Question 3

Hello love doc,

How many chances do I give my boyfriend? We seem to hit wall after wall after wall, I love him a lot - and I am prepared to make it work, but it gets exhausting. I feel like I am constantly being let down by him, he says he will try harder but then a few weeks later he drops the ball again. He is a great guy, but is it even worth it?

Question 1

Hey love Doc,

I recently found out my ex met someone (from a different culture, first language and country) on an online dating site. After meeting her only once (in person) he has left his family and friends to live with her and they have already married well within a year of meeting online (probably for Visa reasons). She is 21 and he is 32. I know it is not my business, and I definitely don't want him back, but I can't help but wonder what causes such uncharacteristic behaviour? Is it likely this/these types of relationships will last?  We were together 6 years and it was quite a shock to hear as I thought I knew him well.

Question 2

Hey Ian,

I have been married to my wife for 6 years, we have a young daughter together and have always been on the same page spiritually etc. But over the last few months (if I really look back, it’s probably been a lot longer) she has been disengaging from all things to do with Christianity. She has changed her theology and now would identify as atheist. It is a big shock for me and I don’t know how to deal with this? She isn’t the same person I married, she isn’t nasty or anything, but she is just very different. I feel we can’t connect on a spiritual level anymore, which is heartbreaking for me, and I worry about how we will bring up our daughter... What do I do?

Question 3

Hey love doc,

Hey Ian, I am going to be a first time Dad in about a month (hopefully not a Christmas day baby haha). And of course, I’m freaking out a little, I have read some books and what not, but I guess you never know how you’ll do until you get there right? I don’t like to over complicate things so... Could you just tell me what the 3 most important things are in being a Dad? Just so I know that if I’m at least doing those 3 things right, my kid will turn out okay, if you know what I mean? Cheers, love your work!

Question 1

Hey love Doc,

I have always been a very maternal person, and really looked forward to finding a husband one day. I have been praying about this a lot lately, and have several people prophesying over my life almost hinting at me to live a life focusing solely on God... The idea of giving up the dream of having a family is so hard. How do I give up something I have wanted for so long, should I even be listening to these people?

Question 2

Hi Iam,

My daughter is starting to date. I want to trust her and not give her a bunch of rules but I also know that kids will be kids. I am in very new and unknown territory, what’s the right move here?

Question 3

Hey love doc,

Last year I went travelling overseas for about 8 months and have now returned home. I met this amazing girl while away and we travelled together for a few months, we got really close over that time and wanted to pursue it further. She has now moved to New Zealand to see if things are going to work with us long term. She thinks everything is going great but I am not sure anymore, I still like her but I am having doubts about the whole thing. Should I tell her this, knowing how much she has invested to be here? It will break her heart and she might want to move back overseas. Or should I just stick it out a little longer to see how our relationship develops in this new environment?

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