We dont care how old you are, the whole making friends thing is always relevant. It doesnt really get any easier, does it? Whenever we hit a new stage in our life, we can find ourselves feeling that familiar how do I make friends? feeling.
So here are some practical tips. First of all, try talking. Practice really does make perfect. Dont worry about being witty and original just try speaking. This will build your confidence as well as allowing others an opportunity to get to know you. Second, learn to listen. You dont have to have a life or death story of How I scaled Kilimanjaro without an inhaler for people to want to talk to you. Actually people generally love talking about themselves so, by listening, you give them a chance to be centre stage. Thirdly, have the courage to be you. Dont apologise for the lame bands you like or pretend to be the life and soul... if youre more happy with a quiet coffee and a chat. Youre a masterpiece in Gods eyes (even if theres a bit of spiritual renovation still to go). And finally, choose your friends. There will always be cliques and tribes who think everyone should know their place (yawn). But there will also be those not bothered about whos in and whos out. People who wont judge you are going to make better friends anyway.
So what now? Thank God for the people around you. If you feel like theres something missing for you, peoplewise, ask God to fill that gap somehow. He put you together and He not only knows you need friendships, but what sort as well.
Soulfood : Lam 1:1 - 3:39, Matt 13:47-58, Ps 113, Prov 14:1-4