Stop the gossip period
'The words of a gossip are like tasty bits of food.' Proverbs 18:8 NCV
King Solomon warned: 'The words of a gossip are like tasty bits of food. People like to gobble them up' (Proverbs 18:8 NCV). Our ears crave gossip like a stomach craves food. Solomon goes on to give this advice: 'Gossips can't keep secrets, so avoid people who talk too much' (Proverbs 20:19 NCV).
Avoid gossip, and avoid gossiping. Gossip destroys relationships; it breaks down trust and removes loyalty. When we feel insecure about ourselves we can be tempted to talk negatively about others to feel better about ourselves. Gossip can create bonds between us, but these bonds are unhealthy - they only settle our need to be liked, accepted and found interesting. And, guaranteed, when we have gossip to share, we usually find people desperate to hear it.
We should be building people up, not bringing them down. The Bible says: 'So encourage each other and give each other strength' (1 Thessalonians 5:11 NCV). When we're feeling insecure, we should be turning to God's Word to remind ourselves that we're loved and accepted, rather than trying other ways, like gossiping, to win people's approval. The Bible says: 'No human being can tame the tongue' (James 4:8 NIV). So we need to ask for God's help to tame our tongues and remove gossiping from our lives.
So what now? Today, decide to only speak words that build people up, and avoid speaking negatively about people to others. When you get to the end of the day, reflect on this experience.
Soulfood: Exo 33-35 Luke 14:25-35 Ps 112 Pro 7:6-9,