'Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.' Romans 12:15 NIV
Some of us are natural fixers. We want to help people feel better and take away their problems. But there are some things we just can't fix. 'Being there' for others is not the same as fixing things for others. Being there may involve giving some practical help, but doesn't mean we have to get everything solved.
When those around us have lost their hope, it can be tricky to know what to say or do to help. Sometimes we just have to sit there and listen, and allow people to express their emotions. The Bible says: 'Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn' (Romans 12:15 NIV). And sometimes 'being there' means we stay there for them, even after the worst of the situation appears to be over. God's healing is a process. We may need to keep on being there for people.
God is the ultimate fixer, the one who truly mends bad situations, heals brokenness and provides lasting comfort. When we're struggling, God helps us work through the emotions we're experiencing and gives us manageable steps to rebuild our hope. God promised Israel that he'd 'make the Valley of Achor a door of hope' (Hosea 2:15 NIV). Achor means 'trouble'. God says he turns trouble into hope.
So what now? Next time someone is going through a tough time, give them space to talk and express themselves before you try and fix their problem. Just 'be there'.
Soulfood: Rev 1-4 Mark 10:13-22 Ps 117 Pro 12:20-22,