Joy 10:00-2:00pm

Dealing with issues

'Consider him who has endured such hostility...' Hebrews 12:3 NAS

Today we're going to think about the best way to handle 'issues' with others!

Firstly, make sure the issue you're dealing with is worth your time and energy. Often it isn't. Ask yourself, 'Am I worked up by something petty?' Remember: it's always easier to be critical than creative, so don't get involved unless you're willing to help. Secondly, if you are sure that you do need to get involved in an issue, remember that your aim is to find God's perfect way together. Watch out that you don't destroy the other person's self-confidence. Stay away from statements like 'you always' or 'you never'. Assure them that you see loads of potential in them and be practical about how they can do things better next time... that's what God does with you! Finally, deal with people as unique individuals. It's a bad idea to start down the track of 'so and so is really good at this'. Comparisons always cause resentment.

Whenever you need to deal with an issue with someone, your goal should be to leave them with three things: a clearer understanding of the issue; complete assurance of your love and support; encouragement and confidence that with God's help they can turn things around.

So what now? Are these things easy to do? No. But with plenty of faith, grace and Holy Spirit wisdom, you can do it! Living the Jesus life means getting involved in people's lives so that his amazing transforming power can be displayed again and again. It's the only kind of life worth living!

Soulfood: 1 Chr 1-2, Mark 1:35-45, Ps 78:65-72, Prov 20:11-14

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