Is it constructive?

There are people who will build us up and there are those who'll make sure we know when we make the wrong call about something. Let's allow this gem of a verse to settle in us: 'The right word at the right time is like precious gold set in silver' (Proverbs 25:11 CEV).

Depending on the situation, even well-meant criticism can sometimes be the thing we need to hear in order for us to learn and grow. Now this does not mean taking on board unnecessary criticism that has no purpose to build us up. If we feel beaten up by something someone has said, assess whether that's because we know there's truth in it or whether it damages how we see ourselves.

We need all types of people around us at different times. We need the critics to keep us humble and grounded because, let's face it, we all think we're the best thing since sliced cheese sometimes. We need those people who walk alongside us and give us opportunities to grow in the gifts God has given us. But mostly, we need constructive people, who are going to stand with us and cheer us on.



So what now? What was the last critical thing someone said to you? If you haven't dealt with it, go to a trusted friend and ask them to help you process it. Try to filter out what's detrimental from what's beneficial. And, keep track of the words you speak. Are they constructive?





— SCRIPTURE —

'The right word at the right time.' Proverbs 25:11 CEV
— SOULFOOD —

Eze 27:25-30:26, Matt 18:10-20, Ps 80:1-11, Pro 15:11-14